Family –children- women

1. It is better for children to grow up in the countryside than in a big city. Do you agree or disagree? Use specific reasons and examples to develop your essay.

 - Growing up in the country means a certain amount of isolation. You are in a small town or on a farm and not with a lot of people. Even more important, the people you meet every day tend to be just like you. Most will be the same race as you, have the same background as you, and will have gone to the same scholls as you.
- In the city, you meet with a variety of people. There are different races and different cultures. You get a more interesting mix.
- there isn’t the sense of community in the city that you have in the country because city people tend to come froma lot of different places and move around a lot. People in the city can live in the same apartment building for twenty years and never get to know their neighbors.
- In the country, everybody knows everybody. For a child, this meas the country is more secure. A child can get lost or hurt in the city and have no one to turn to. In the country, everyone is a neighbor. People in the country feel connected to each other.
- A child growing up in the city has the advantage of a lot of interesting and exciting places to visit. He or she can go to the zoo, museums, art galleries and concerts. There are a lot of restaurants with different kinds of food. It’s easy to see every new movie that come out. Children in the country don’t have a lot of these activity nearby.
- All in all, I think a childhood in the city is better because it prepares you more for what real life is like.
2. Do you agree or disagree with the following statement? Parents or other adult relatives should make important decisions for their older (15 to 18 year-old) teenage children. Use specific reasons and examples to support your opinion.

- Agree:
- no one knows me as well as my parents. No one wants the best for me like my parents. It is natural that I should allow my parents to make important decisions for me, concerned education, social life and future career.
- They are much more wise and deep thinker.
- They are experienced.

3. Do you agree or disagree with the following statement? A person’s childhood years (the time from birth to twelve years of age) are the most important years of a person’s life. Use specific reasons and examples to support your answer.

Are childhood years of a person the most important years in his/her life?
- Agree: these are the years that form us. These years determine what kind of a person the child will become.
- Why?
- The time when we learn about relationships.
- Our parents and siblings, then about rest of the world.
- Learn how to respond to others based the treatment we’ve given.
- If we are loved ->know how to love others.
- Form our ideas about our own self – worth from the way others treat us during these years. They can convince us we are worthless, or they can teach us we deserve love and respect.
- The years when we begin our formal education.
- Acquire the basic skills –reading, writing, working with numbers –use throughout out lives.
- Learn how to analyze information and use it.
- Develop our moral sense of what’s right and wrong.
- Develop our self – discipline to live according to our morals.

4. Do you agree or disagree with the following statement? There is nothing that young people can teach older people. Use specific reasons and examples to support your position

- What can older people teach young people?
- Is there anything that young people can teach older people?
- Technology.
- Youth culture: popular music is generally youth – oriented.
- Youth – related social issues: AIDS and school – violence.

5. As part of a class assignment you have to write about the following topic. In some countries children have very strict rules of behaviour, in other countries they are allowed to do almost anything they want. To want extent should children have to follow rules? You should write at least 250 words.
- It would be unwise, indeed foolhardy, to impose the same rules of behavior on all children in every part of the world.
- Acceptable rules if behaviour can vary greatly from one country to another, with factors such as age and family values influencing what is deemed to be acceptable in that particular society. Even the sex of a child can greatly influence these rules.
- A basic factor that must be considered is the age of the child.
- Other factors which must be considered include maturity and household rules
- Whatever the situation, rules of behaviour do need to be imposed on children. In all societies rules are an integral part of life and if imposed from an early age a child will develop a more disciplined approach to life and as a result develop into a well balanced adult to deal with an ever more complex world.

6. What are the important qualities of a good son or daughter? Have these qualities changed or remained the same over time in your culture? Use specific reasons and examples to support your answer.

- Obedience
- Loyalty
- Respect

7. Children learn best by observing behavior of adults and copying it. To what extent do you agree or disagree with this statement?
8. Some people think that children should begin their formal education at a very early age and should spend most of their time on school studies. Others believe that young children should spend most of their time playing. Compare these two views. Which view do you agree with? Why?

- Should children begin their formal education at a very early age?
There are many things that could affect the outcome of the argument.
- What kind of school is it?
- It could be a school where children sit at their desks all day long memorizing dates and facts.
- Or it could be a scholl where the teacher helps the children learn what they want to learn -> better.
- What kind of play we are talking about?
- The child could be alone all day long watching television, which could make him or her bored and lonely.
- The child could e involved in group activities with neighborhood children of the same age, which could help him or her learn how to get along with others.
- At which age should children begin their formal education?
- 6 years old -> why?
- What role does “play”take towards a child?
- Learn how to get along with others.
- What is more important to a child, eduction or playing? Why?
- Both are important.
- What is the best balance?
- An ideal school with proper break in which children can play.

9. It is very important that children should study hard at school. Time spent playing is time wasted. Do you agree?

Why education is very important for children?
- It is believe that if children study hard at school, they will have many opportunities to find a good job.
What is the disadavantages of studying hard?
- Health: strain is the cause of bad health effects such as high blood pressure, heart attacks and eyesight problems.
- Communication: they may not communicate with their families and friends -> difficulties with their colleagues and their bosses.
 Children should manage time: how long should children study and play.

10. Do you agree or disagree with the following statement? Children should be required to help with household tasks as soon as they are able to do so. Use specific reasons and examples to support your answer.

What are the advantages for children of doing household tasks?
- Household tasks build skills -> make life a lot easier.
- Family happier: parents less busy -> family relax together; parents won’t feel like the servants to their “couch potato” offspring.
- Responsibility, better organization and time management skills -> more likely to be succesful in life.

11. "When teenagers under the age of 18 commit crimes, their parents should be held responsible." Write an essay discussing this statement and suggest ways to combat teenage crime.
12. The government should provide more financial assistance to parents who use childcare.

What is the advantages of using childcare?
- Firstly, childcare centres may assist children in their early development.
- They give children an opportunity to mix with other children and to develop social skills at an early age.
- Indeed, a whole range of learning occurs in childcare centres.
- Moreover, parents and children need to spend some time apart.
- Children become less dependent on their parents
- Parents themselves are less stressed and more effective care-givers when there are periods of separation.
- In fact, recent studies indicate that the parent-child relationship can be improved by the use of high-quality childcare facilities.
- In addition, parents who cannot go to work because they don''t have access to childcare facilities cannot contribute to the national economy.
- They are not able to utilise their productive skills and do not pay income tax.
- In fact, non-working parents can become a drain on the tax system through dependent spouse and other rebates.
- In conclusion, government support for childcare services assists individual families and is important for the economic well-being of the whole nation.

13. What are some of the qualities of a good parent? Use specific details and examples to explain your answer.

- Love us in any circumstance: marriage, religion, ... -> unconditional love
- Trust: trust each other.
Respect their children. Treat them as individuals. Accept our differences.

SECTION 2: FAMILY AND FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS

14. Do you agree or disagree with the following statement? Parents are the best teachers. Use specific reasons and examples to support your answer.
What parents can teach us?

What are disadvantages of parents in the position of teachers?
- They may be too close to their children emotionally: sometimes limit a chold’s freedom in the name of safety.
- They may expect their children’s interest to be similar to their own.
- Different generations -> disadvantage of parents: narrower views of life, can’t keep up with rapid social and technological changes.
What is the real teacher of one’s life:
- Our parents
- Our teachers.
- Our peers.
- Books and newspaper and televisions.
They are all valuable.

15. Some people think that the family is the most important influence on young adults. Other people think that friends are the most important influence on young adults. Which view do you agree with? Use examples to support your position.

- what role does family play in young adult’s life?
- A family is permanent, while friends come and go. They give you support throughout your life
- Your parents are your role models. They will encourage you to do your best to push yourself, and to improve your self. A family is amitious for you.
- Your family teaches you about love.
- What is their friends’s role?
• Which is more important?

* Relevant questions for interview section:
1. Do you have any brothers or sisters? What are they doing at present?
2. Where does your father or mother work?
3. Do you live with your family? Why?
4. What do you and your family do together?
5. Describe the role of the family in your life
- give motivation -> life is more meaningful: have people to care for.
- Give lifetime support ->confidence.
- Lifelong friends: never betray, always love me and want the most beautiful thing for me.
6. Speculate on how life would be without any family.
- Lack of motivation.
- Lack of orientation.
- Life is less meaningful.
7. Descibe the most interesting member of your family. Say:
• His/her relationship to you.
• What this persons does.
• How you feel about this person
And explain what makes this person interesting.
8. A person who has the most influence in your life. (please write your own answer for this question
Who is the person? It is very my father that makes the most important influence in my life. He hasn’t only helped me form my own character but also given me strength to lead a better life. Moreover, he indeed made a great contribution to all my achievements up till now. For me, he is an ideal Father.
How does this person influence on you?
- He was the person who make great contribution to my academic performance.
- From his view, a succesful person must be an well educated person. That’s why he always encourage us, his four children, to study and study more. He made us awared that intellectual is the most precious thing any person can possess, much more than money.
- He worked hard for earning enough money for providing us the best conditions for our studying. Take my self as an example. When I just entered my high school, and appeared to have good ability for computer science subject, he had no hesitation to buy me a good computer despite the fact that our family was not well–off at that time and computer was not cheap at all.
- Four children in the same age group is indeed a heavy burden for any parents. Although he is only a normal electrical engineer with moderate salary but he managed succesfully rearing us. All of us have successfully entered into best universities and performed really well in our academic results. Anyone looking at our family would admire my father for his effort of bring up us.
- What’s more, he serves as a pattern of a good person for us to follow:
- He is a soulful man not only in family but also in his relationship towards friends as well as colleagues..
- He knows how to tackle his lifetime thorny problem. Take his youth time as an example. His rule was always doing the best in given conditions.
9. Describe the role of the family in traditional Vietnamese society.
The long turn should include:
- The roles and responsibilities of the various generations.
- The benefits to children, the elderly etc. of a family like this.
- Any disadvantages.
- And describe any changes to the traditional family structure that have occurred or are in the process of occurring.

SECTION 3: WOMEN

1. Descibe the role of women in a typical family in Vietnam
• the tasks women usually perform in the home.
• Whether men have different responsibilities to women
• What roles male and female parents take in bringing up children
How satisfied males and females are with the current situation.
2."Fatherhood ought to be emphasized as much as motherhood. The idea that women are solely respondible for deciding whether or not to have babies leads to the idea that they are also responsible for bringing the children up." To what extent to you agree or disagree?

Why fatherhood should be emphasized as much as motherhood in the raising of children.
- If the decision to have babies is shared by both parents, then the responsibility for raising children is more likely to be shared as well. The role of father should have the same importance as that of mother.
- Fathers are important to children as male role models.
- Traditionally, Japanese fathers are expected to teach their children about the real world and the importance of work.
- More and more women are working outside their homes to make ends meet despite the fact that they are still raising a family.
- As more and more women elect to have both family and career they need more help from their husbands.
- For example fathers should share household chores with mothers in such areas as cooking, cleaning and laundry.
- Women also need psychological support from men since the raising of children &endash; especially younger children&emdash;can be exhausting.
- In conclusion, the father''s role and the mother''s role should be equally emphasized because not only does shared parenting ease the burden, but also gives children a broader perspective on behaviour.

3. The position of women in society has changed markedly in the last twenty years. Many of the problems young people now experience, such as juvenile delinquency, arise from the fact that many married women now work or are not at home to care for their children.To what extent do you agree or disagree with this opinion?

How disadvantages of working women toward juvenile?
• Most working married women have no time for their children.
- As a result they are no longer an authority for their offspring.
- Their jobs take 8 hours of their day or sometimes even more, so children are not able to communicate with their mothers and do not receive information and knowledge from them.
- Consequently Children do not want to obey their parents'' rules. They trust and believe more in their friends than their parents and therefore get involved in more trouble than if they had listened to their mothers.
• Second, the personal values of married women who work change so they care more about their jobs than their children.
- In response, children protest and do bad things to attract their mothers'' attention.
• Work brings money and personal satisfaction for the married women but it affects children''s education so they are more likely to be involved in criminal action.
Why this is not a direct cause of the indisputable increase in juvenile – related problems during this period?
- It is now accepted that young women should find work on leaving school; indeed to rely totally on their parents’ financial support is no longer an option in many families.
- Likewise, once they get married, the majority of women continue working since the financial pressures of setting up a house and establishing a reasonable standard of living often require two incomes.
- Twenty years ago it was common for women to give up work once they had children and devote their time to caring for their children.
- This is no longer the general rule and the provision of professionally run child care facilities and day nurseries have romoved much of the responsibility for child rearing that used to fall to mothers.
- However, these facilities come at a cost and often require two salaries coming into a family to be afforded.
- the increase in the number of working mothes has not resulted in children being brought up less well than previously.
- By giving mothers the opportunity to work and earn money children can be better provided for than previously.
- There is more money for luxuries and holidays and a more secure family life is possible.
- Of course there are limits as to the amount of time that ideally should be spent away from home and the ideal scenario would be for one of the parents (often the wife) to have a part – time job and thus be available for their children before and after school.
- It is important to establish the correct balance between family life and working life.
4. Fathers are just as capable as mothers of taking care of children, so men should share parenting work more equally with women. Agree/ disagree?
5. Many people believe that women make better parents than men and that this is why they have the greater role in raising children in most societies. Others claim that men are just as good as women at parenting Write an essay expressing your point of view. Give reasons for your answer.

• I believe that child – rearing should be the responsibility of both parents and that, whist the roles within that partnership may be different, they are nevertheless equal in importance.
- In some countries, it has been made easier over the years for single parents to raise children on their own.
- However, this does not mean that the traditional family, with both parents providing emotional and role – models for their children, is not the most satisfactory way of bringing up children.
- how we define ‘responsible for bringing the children up’.
- At is simplest, it could mean giving the financial support neccesary to provide a home, food and clothes and making sure the child is safe and receives an adequate education. This could be the basic definition.
- Another possible way of defining that part of the quotation.
- That would say it is not just the father’s responsibility to provide the basics for his children, while his wife involves herself in the everyday activity of bringing them up.
- Rather, he should share those daily duties, spend as much time as his job allows with his children, play with them, read to them, help directly with their education, participate very fully in their lives and encourage them to share his.
The economic and employment situation in many countries means that jobs are getting more, not less, stressful, requiring long hours and perhaps long journeys to work as well. Therefore it may remain for many a desirable ideal rather than an achievable reality.

6. Most high level jobs are done by men. Should the government encourage a certain % of these jobs to be reserved for women?
You should spend no more than 40 minutes on this task. You should write a minimum of 250 words.

• Most of the jobs in society that are high-paying, powerful, and demand a lot of responsibility are held by men. I do not believe this situation arose because women are incapable of doing high-level work. I believe society could benefit if more women were in postions of power and therefore I think the government should reserve a percentage of these jobs for females.
Why should government encourage a certain % of high level jobs for women?
• This situation is not because of the incapability of women
• Firstly, the problem of unfair employment distribution appears to come from social convention and not competence or true ability.
- At a young age most girls are not encouraged to pursue political office, business success, or professional prestige .
- On the other hand, boys are told to do these things.
- As a result, men hold the high level jobs but this does not mean they are very good at what they do.
- If the government set a quota for hiring women to do high level work, such as working in the government itself, then perhaps women would be more inspired to be ambitious in their life plans and contribute to a less-than perfect society.
• Regulations in the workplace for hiring women would not be a new thing.
- Although not written or made into law, there seems to be rules for who can and cannot have high-level jobs.
- For instance, if a man and a woman both competed for the presidency of a company or even the country, and both were equally qualified and had the same experience and background, there is little doubt who would get the job.
- Even more, if the man was less qualified and less experienced than the woman, the man would still probably get the job because of his sex.
- Therefore, to legislate a percentage of high level jobs for women would work to fight the unwritten sexist rules of the workplace.
- A quota system would break down some barriers in the short-term. Sexism in the workplace will not just magically disappear.
- Why should not?
- The injustice and discrimination could be reversed.
- This is to say that some qualified men might be denied a job while some unqualified women would be given one.
- Also, the problem of sexism at work could be worsened instead of being overcome. People would doubt whether a women with a high level job was "truly capable"--men might feel bitterness and resentment, while women might think less of themselves and begin to depend on government "charity".
- Furthermore, there is the problem of defining what is a high-level job and determining an appropriate percentage. ( Final statement that supports my opinion again.)

7. Women will play an increasingly important role in the work place of the future. -Preparation and practice .

Why women will make up a large percentage of the workforce?
- Due to the recession in the developed world, companies are reluctant to take on full – time workers, who usually expect health care, a pension scheme and redundancy payments when dismissed.
- Instead, many employers prefer to hire people at an hourly rate. These employees tend to be women.
- A lot of women can’t commit themselves to a forty – hour week as they have children to look after. This is particularly true for single parent families, where the woman have to look after the children herself.
- There may also be the perception that a woman is only working to supplement her husband’s income and so full –time work is not as important.
- It is also be true to say that increasing sexual equality has meant that more women are reaching management positions.
- This in turn would mean that the number of women also increase in lower positions, as women would be keen to employ other women.
- If this is the case, this trend must be expected to continue.
It seems likely that the number of working women will continue to increase over the nect few years as companies continue to seek a workforce that would be eaily dismissed and is more flexible in their working hours. Athough this may be a good thing in terms of sexual equality, it is a major setback in terms of worker rights.
8. When mothers go out to work, their families suffer.
9. Have the changing roles of women good for women and society?
Both women and society have been disadvantaged by women’s emancipation. She supports this argument by showing that the changing role of women has caused:
- regression of women’s conditions to 19th century level
- after having been freed of work outside the home in the 19th century, women are now doing both paid employment and housework again.
- lowering of the breadwinner’s wage.
- Collapse of family solidarity.
- Men neglectful of their families.
- Juvenile deliquency.
- High unemployment.
- Women to be dissatisfied with homemaking but still performing similar tasks in the new employment area –service.
- Women to accept inappropriate and unpleasant jobs.
- Women to deny their feminine nature.
- Casual attitude to sex, resulting in:
- Baby hunger.
- Infertility.
- Sexual transmitted diseases.
- Abortion.